Thank You! !!— for the support and for taking the time to respond! :-)
I agree about the porn. I think it’s possible that it’s a compulsion that signifies a symptom of a bigger problem which is likely multi-faceted and deeply rooted. Amen to that.
I mean, my ex had stuff, for sure, and nothing I could’ve done was going to fix it. I had stuff, too. The fact that I stuck around as long as I did is something I have to take ownership of. It’s only with the the clarity of detachment that I can see how dysfunctional it was, on both of our parts.
I’m so glad that I don’t feel compelled to worry about or take responsiblity for him anymore. That’s on him. I decided to take responsibility for me. And that’s been an incredible reallocation of energy that’s allowed me to get closer to the person I want to be.