My guess is that your dates indeed believed they had Harvard in their pants.

And it makes sense. There’s a lot of this, “I won’t settle!” and “I deserve better!” kind of crap floating around my lady world. Which would be fine, if it weren’t code for our own sense of entitlement and need to control, which is hypocritical as fuck given all the complaints about men feeling entitled.

The bottom line is this: We dont control other people. We shouldn’t treat interpersonal relationships as transactions. We shouldn’t use our bodies as commodities (especially not if we are going to complain when men who make an offer don’t meet our price and then shame them for it.)

Being unafraid to ask for what we want, being unafraid to be alone, and being committed to improving ourselves for our own benefit (which will, in turn, be attractive) is a good start.

Thank you for taking the time to respond! I’m so glad you enjoyed it! :)

Mama, writer, lover, fighter — I wear my heart on my sleeve because my pants pockets are too small.

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