Katy Preen, thank you for responding. I would love to have a convo with you and Vanessa Torre about this if you’re up for it.

I do not deny that there are men that feel entitled to women’s bodies. I'd have to live on Mars to make the claim they don’t exist. (Except that’s where the men are supposedly from, so maybe not even then.)

All three of us have encountered them in the dating world, the work world, the school world…basically the world. They exist. Empirically. Assholes, in general, abound.

I don’t date those assholes. They are relegated to block.

Why would you? Where do you lose your agency to say to yourself, “Hold on. This guy is one of those entitled assholes. Imma peace out.”?

I’m trying to imagine a dating scenario where a dude could deny my agency.

I’m struggling.

(Obviously, rape, assault, workplace harassment, and exploitation of a power dynamic are examples of said scenarios, but those don’t fall under a typical non-criminal dating app experiences.)

Mama, writer, lover, fighter — I wear my heart on my sleeve because my pants pockets are too small. www.ajkaywriter.com

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