I totally agree with you, Jessica. In the contest for which kids get the shittier end of the resource stick, the average kids ‘win’, hands down.
There are indeed sadder sacks than kids with too many AP classes.
And the shitstorm of the achievement race can be mitigated by savvy parents (like yourself) and talented educators. My ignorant ass didn’t know any better and my daughter suffered.
My beef comes from schools selling the “highly achieving” kids (and their parents) a bill of goods (Ivy league admission!), and then stuffing them into tiny identical boxes from which they will emerge atrophied upon graduation with nothing but addictions to Adderall and Xanax to recommend them.
But they got into Yale, so it’s all good.
We need to recalibrate our definitions of “merit” and “success” and make sure our kids actually learn something in high school besides how to chase their own tail.
I’d be less of a whiny bitch about it if it were a zero sum game. I run my mouth because I think the way the “high achieving” kids are pushed is actually damaging.
The neglect that happens in the chubby middle of the Bell curve is shameful as well, but at least those kids can be wrong without having a full on mental break.