…complete responsibility for their thoughts, feelings, and behavior. They do this by problem solving. Specifically, they must learn to take calculated risks and see failure as feedback (not a character flaw). Practice voicing your concerns when you need support, instead of just giving up, retreating, or ask…
Melody Wilding, LMSW
I recently underwent this shift after my divorce and it changed the meaning of my situation. I transitioned from being a perpetual victim to being challenged and I was able to let go of anger at my persecutor and have agency over what was happening to me. It was a tremendous break-through.
The part I found really empowering was, in acknowledging the challenges presented to me, I was able to take control of my situation and rise above it, instead of feeling like a helpless victim.
Changing the meaning in this way; acknowledging the drama triangle and reframing your position in it, is liberating and life-changing. Having the ability to recognize challenges and meet them head on has done wonders for my personal effectiveness.
I will encourage anyone I know and care about to reframe their “drama triangles” in this same way.