I recently underwent this shift after my divorce and it changed the meaning of my situation. I transitioned from being a perpetual victim to being challenged and I was able to let go of anger at my persecutor and have agency over what was happening to me. It was a tremendous break-through.

The part I found really empowering was, in acknowledging the challenges presented to me, I was able to take control of my situation and rise above it, instead of feeling like a helpless victim.

Changing the meaning in this way; acknowledging the drama triangle and reframing your position in it, is liberating and life-changing. Having the ability to recognize challenges and meet them head on has done wonders for my personal effectiveness.

I will encourage anyone I know and care about to reframe their “drama triangles” in this same way.