I have a litmus test I use on a first date.

“Do you believe a woman can be a feminist and also enjoy being submissive in bed?”

It’s a hard line for me. I won’t move past that first date with anyone who can’t reconcile those two ideas on their own.

For me, it boils down to choice and consent. Great piece.

Mama, writer, lover, fighter — I wear my heart on my sleeve because my pants pockets are too small. www.ajkaywriter.com

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