I can honestly say that I’ve never heard this. I’ve heard a lot of shit. This one is new to me.

The messages I get are contrary to “be realistic”:

You can have it all!!!

Be everything to everyone!!!”

Lean in, for Christ’s sake!”

Be Dad and Mom.

Be Madonna and whore.

Be emotionally vulnerable and fiercely independent.

It’s an endless barrage of things I’m am supposed to be able to do and be, all at once, even when those things are mutually exclusive.

And then when I’m not everything to everyone???


Mama, writer, lover, fighter — I wear my heart on my sleeve because my pants pockets are too small. www.ajkaywriter.com

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