Hey Jordan! Thanks for the response.
I struggle with the word “blame”. I don’t think it’s the same thing as responsibility or obligation. Blame feels like self-flagellation. Responsibility feels like a call to action.
And here’s the kicker: Since I started taking responsibility, I’ve seen results. He has showed up for parent teacher conferences (never did that before). He bought his girls clothes for his house (never did that before). The constant e-mails have halted. The abusive texts have decreased substantially.
If taking responsbility is what’s working, I’m inclined to keep doing that. My need to be successful and help grow a better dad for my girls outweighs my need to be ‘right’.
Does that make sense?