Grace sounds great.

I think we are talking about two different things.

I’m not asking how one should “treat” people. I’m asking how to “relate” to them.

The difference is that when talking about how you ‘treat’ people, you are making yourself the subject and the other person the object. Treating people is something you do to them. They are the recipient of whatever you are offering. In your case, it’s grace. Someone else might offer condecension or maybe nothing at all.

‘Relating’ to people is making a connection. One person is not the subject and the other the object, rather, an interaction takes place…a give and take (although not necessarily in equal quantities in each direction). Generally speaking, exchanges are more productive when people speak the same language, literal or metaphorical.

My question was about how to bridge that metaphorical language gap.

This helped me understand:

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